Elizabeth Dellinger McCoy Obituary (1932 – 2022) – Charlotte, NC

Elizabeth Jean Dellinger McCoy
January 31, 1932 – February 2, 2022
Charlotte, North Carolina – Elizabeth Jean (Bettie) Dellinger McCoy passed away peacefully on Tuesday, February 2, 2022 at Sharon Towers, her home since 2005. Bettie was born in Gastonia, North Carolina on January 31, 1932, to Jacob Cedric and Meta Stanton Dellinger. After spending her childhood in Gastonia and graduating from Gastonia High School, she graduated from Erskine College in Due West, South Carolina.
In 1950, while attending Erskine College, Bettie met the love of her life and best friend, William Francis (Bill) McCoy. After three years of dating, they married in 1953 and in her words, “We have been blessed with 50 wonderful years together!”. With joy and total commitment, she raised two daughters, Marsha and Jan. After raising her daughters, she began a career as a primary education teacher which was initially to be a short-term endeavor that lasted 25 years.
Bettie was an active member of The Grove Church (formerly Hickory Grove Presbyterian Church) in Charlotte, North Carolina for 58 years. She has held many positions including Women’s Presbyterian, Women’s Circle, Sunday School and Bible School Teaching, Friendship Tray Delivery, Inn Room, and Communion fraternal. She was honored to receive Life Membership from Presbyterian Women for her many years of service. Bettie also enjoyed her involvement as a member of the Delta Kappa Gamma Teacher’s Society, which has a strong commitment to supporting underserved communities.
Bettie, “Mom Mom”, was a kind and loving wife, mother, grandmother, great-grandmother, aunt and friend. She was the epitome of a true Southern lady – kind and gentle with an inner strength of steel, who loved her family beyond measure. Her great love for her Lord was evident in the way she lived her faith in her daily life. She saw the good in all circumstances and in everyone she met. No matter who you were, you were treated with courtesy, kindness and respect. With a true heart of gold, it’s no surprise that she was an advocate for the least heard and most underserved.
Among the many things that brought joy to her heart, topping the list would be having family reunions at her home in Charlotte and Lake Norman. Many other popular activities included playing cards and games with friends, watching ACC basketball, doing crossword puzzles, and keeping up with news and politics. His five grandchildren and seven great-grandchildren were his pride and joy. She never missed an opportunity to be their cheerleader at all events.
Her deep and abiding faith and complete trust in God’s plan guided her throughout her life’s journey. She faithfully resisted many health problems and lived her life with grace, resilience and courage.
She taught us all that living a life full of enduring faith, unconditional love, humility, tolerance, patience, and perseverance created a life worth living. These characteristics will be his legacy that will live on in our hearts forever.
Bettie is survived by her daughters, Marsha McCoy Stiegel and her husband, Dr. Mark Stiegel, and Meta Janet (Jan) McCoy Rowe and her husband, Roy; five grandchildren, Matthew Stiegel (Tricia), Anna Stiegel Glass (Scott), Evan Stiegel (Amy), Taylor Rowe and Madison Rowe Parker (Austin); seven great-grandchildren, Elizabeth, Catherine, Russell and Nash Stiegel and Scott, McCoy and Bettie Glass, sister-in-law, Frances McCoy and numerous nieces and nephews.
The family would like to express their deepest gratitude to Sharon Towers, Dr. Carl Fisher and the staff at Fresenius Matthews Dialysis Center, Dr. John Symanski, Dr. Michael Friedland and his dear friends Johnna Long and Betrinia Crawford for the loving care that has been provided. been shown to Betty.
A private burial service for the family will be held at 2:00 p.m. on Thursday, February 10, 2022. Please join the family via live stream at https://us02web.zoom.us/j/83189404454?pwd=T09YWTNacWYrQW8waFAyQmN1L25DQT09
In lieu of flowers, memorials may be offered in Bettie’s memory at: Sharon Towers, Residents’ Assistance Fund, 5100 Sharon Rd, Charlotte, NC 28210, (www.sharontowers.org) or The Grove Church, 5735 East WT Harris Blvd, Charlotte, NC 28215 (www.thegrovecharlotte.org) or National Kidney Foundation, 7413 Six Forks Rd #255, Raleigh, NC 27615 (www.kidney.org), Hospice & Palliative Care Charlotte Region, 7845 Little Ave, Charlotte, NC 28226 (www.hpccr.org).
Arrangements are in the custody of Kenneth W. Poe Funeral & Cremation Service, 1321 Berkeley Ave., Charlotte, NC; 28204 (704) 641-7606. Online condolences can be shared at www.kennethpoeservices.com.

Published by Charlotte Observer on February 6, 2022.


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